For most of my life — and for most of my clients' lives — the approach to personal growth looked something like this: identify what is wrong, decide to be better, try harder, and push through. If the results did not come, the answer was always more effort, more discipline, more willpower.
What I discovered across 25 years of school, industrial, and clinical practice — and what the science now confirms — is that this approach is not just ineffective. It is working against the very system it is trying to change.
True, sustainable wellness does not begin with willpower. It begins with calm. And that is the entire foundation of what I call the BE-calming First philosophy.
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About the Author
Dino Ubalde is a licensed Clinical Psychologist, doctoral candidate, educator, and founder of WellSpring7DAYS LivingLifeWELL — a whole-person wellness program grounded in nervous system safety, positive psychology, and faith. With 25 years and above of experience in the intersection of school, industrial, and clinical psychology, Dino writes about the psychology of sustainable wellness and the art of living fully.